As believers we are called to embrace and live a life that calls us to be uncomfortable. Even the gospel itself is an uncomfortable message that convicts people to change and live in a way that represents Christ.
One way that Jesus embraced the uncomfortable was by having uncomfortable conversations. Jesus was unafraid and willing to talk to anyone about the topics that others would choose to avoid because He knew the change that could come from it.
In that same way, we as believers should embrace having those uncomfortable conversations that could possibly change the trajectory of any relationship, others lives, or even our own lives.
Here are 3 reminders to help you with Embracing Uncomfortable Conversations:
1. Remember It’s Not About You
Are you allowing the opinions of what others may say about you, to stop you from having the conversation ?
Galatians 1:10 states, “Obviously, I’m not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant.”
This scripture challenges us to truly think about whom we are doing it for. Is it for us or for God ?
It’s not that your feelings aren’t important but as believers we should not allow the fears of others to rob us from sharing an important message that needs to be said. No matter how uncomfortable it is.
We are servants of Christ 1st so whenever an opportunity comes to use our voice to cause change, provide healing, or help others it’s always worth it.
We should never let the opinions of others stop us from doing things that glorify God.
2. Remember the End Goal
Are you having these uncomfortable conversations with the end goal in mind ?
1 Corinthians 3:7-8 states, “It’s not important who does the planting, or who does the watering. What’s important is that God makes the seed grow. The one who plants and the one who waters work together with the same purpose. And both will be rewarded for their own hard work.”
This scripture talks about planting seeds and watering as if we are helping God’s plants grow. For it’s not our job to change someone but it is our job to help bring change to someone with the goal for us both to be rewarded by God in the end.
In that same way, let us choose to view us sharing wisdom, giving good advice, and warning others as seeds to help lead others to change for Christ.
Even in the bible, we see Jesus constantly having uncomfortable conversations with the end goal in mind that then leads many to change, and that CHANGE is Jesus Christ.
Sometimes that one uncomfortable conversation you are holding back from could be the last seed that needs to be planted for someone to surrender to God to change.
3. Remember to Love
Are you remembering to come from a place of love with these uncomfortable conversations ?
Ephesians 4:29 states , “Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.”
This scripture talks about how we should have conversations with others. It talks about how our words should not bring harm but should bring encouragement to whomever may hear them.
As believers we are called to build each other up, not tear each other down. Make sure that you are coming from a place of love when having these conversations that will make it easier to share and receive.
A lot of times conflict is viewed as something bad due to others past experiences so make sure to show grace to others and be the love of God that person needs to see.
Our mouths are vessels for Christ, so be intentional with what comes out of it. For loving words is what brings others to Christ, not condemning words.
If you are having a hard time with this, take some time to prepare before having the conversation. Try writing out a script that still represents the message of love.
I pray and hope this blog blessed you and helped encourage you to become more comfortable with having conversations that can seem uncomfortable.